Reflection over past events is an important piece of learning, however to keep revisiting situations, relationships, and events can have negative effects. It is easy for us to be critical of our past selves and mull over what we should have said or done. Living in the past can cause our present selves to over think or not partake in experiences that could be beneficial because we are worried we will make the same mistakes again. It’s important to remember when we find ourselves starting to replay the past to remember the reason the we can so clearly see what we should have done or said then is because we have grown, we have used the past and learned from it. We are wiser now than we were before so the answers to the past become more clear. Don’t be afraid you will make the same mistakes of the past, you have learned and are now wiser for it for the future.
You cannot keep making yourself upset or angry about things that have happened in the past. It is so tempting to revisit old hurt feelings but this doesn’t help soothe the past, it only hurts the present. It brings things up that were supposed to be laid to rest, forgiven, and forgotten. People change, people grow. You have grown yourself. Therefore, stop reverting back to and thinking of your past self and past situations. Don’t ruin the future with things from the past. Recognize that they have happened and move on.