Starting a new job or internship somewhere unfamiliar? It’s easy to feel like you are an outsider or a “guest in someone’s house” for the first couple of weeks. You aren’t sure what is the correct protocol, everything is really formal, and you might not know many people. But that’s okay! Everyone needs their own time to adjust to a new place, new co-workers, and new bosses. Here are a few tips for transforming from feeling like a guest to being right at home!
These are just a few tips to go from house guest to right at home! As you work through your new job or internship you will find even more ways to leave your mark! Good luck!
Life can jumble itself up in your lap all at once. It’s crazy how so many things can pile up. It’s hard not to get stressed and freak out. It’s hard not to feel overworked and like you haven’t had a break, no calm before the storm.
It’s important when these feelings come around that we have the time we don’t think we have: the time to relax. This is when you need to take a few minutes or even an hour to just relax, just be. Whether it is closing your eyes for a couple of minutes and just focusing on your breathing, watching your favorite show, or going for a run. These things are important, they give our brain a break and allow us to unwind.
This can help us to start fresh and feel at least somewhat revived. If you can’t take more than a minute then just steal away a few quiet seconds to take some deep breaths and regroup.
You can do it, relax, revive, and get to it! :)
You cannot keep making yourself upset or angry about things that have happened in the past. It is so tempting to revisit old hurt feelings but this doesn’t help soothe the past, it only hurts the present. It brings things up that were supposed to be laid to rest, forgiven, and forgotten. People change, people grow. You have grown yourself. Therefore, stop reverting back to and thinking of your past self and past situations. Don’t ruin the future with things from the past. Recognize that they have happened and move on.
Having a rough day? Maybe you over slept or had a quiz in a class you weren’t expecting. These hiccups can really put a damper on our day, if we let them. We don’t have to let it though. We don’t have to start our day at a 2 and then by the time we go to bed register at a -50 (we’ve all done it, these are days when we think nothing will go right). If we choose to not be held down by the negative annoyances in our lives and find the good things we can turn our whole day around. Take a break for 2 minutes (It won’t even take that long) and think of 5 things that went right or are going well. Repeat them and add to the list!
Also, smile! Studies show that just the physical act of turning your lips into a smile can make you feel better!
Even when you are feeling weak, you are strong. Have the courage to face your fears and your troubles head on. Work through difficult problems, you will accomplish them because you have the abilities to overcome difficulties in your life. You are strong, don’t let your perception of yourself or your abilities fool you. You can do it!
When bad things happen to us or loved ones it can be very hard to deal with and make sense of. In these times of trouble we might want to run to the dark places in our mind and heart and shut the good things out in our life. Momentarily, this might make us feel better, we can get brief comfort from feeling as if the world isn’t such a good place.
However, to begin to heal from negative experiences we must continue to stay in the light. Continue to be positive and always, always look for the good around you. They can be simple things like sunshine or a smile. Find those good things and hold onto them. They are your anchor to moving past the negative into the positive. Don’t be afraid to try to find and look for happiness and positivity.
We grow stronger not by staying in the negative, but by having courage to look for and hold on to the positive.
Everyone loves to know they are appreciated now and then. Pay it forward and shower someone in gratitude! :)
You deserve to be respected and to respect yourself. Don’t let others treat you poorly or make you feel like you aren’t worth anything, you are. Even if you can’t see it right now you are. You deserve more than someone saying hurtful things to you or treating you in a manner that is hurtful. Respecting yourself also has to come from within. Don’t look at yourself in a negative way or treat yourself negatively. It’s hard to see the forest through the trees sometimes, but I promise you are worthy and deserving of self respect and respect from others.