“Anyone can hold a grudge, but it takes a person with character to forgive. When you forgive, you release yourself from a painful burden. Forgiveness doesn’t mean what happened was OK, and it doesn’t mean that person should still be welcome in your life. It just means you have made peace with the pain, and are ready to let it go.”
—Doe Zantamata (via theoptimisticdreamr)
April 2012
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“You can’t live your life for other people. You’ve got to do what’s right for you, even if it hurts some people you love.”
—Nicholas Sparks
“In the end, though, maybe we must all give up trying to pay back the people in this world who sustain our lives. In the end, maybe it’s wiser to surrender before the miraculous scope of human generosity and to just keep saying thank you, forever and sincerely, for as long as we have voices.”
—Elizabeth Gilbert
“Let us be grateful to the people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.”
—Marcel Proust
Thankful Thursday :)
- Hi everyone I hope everyone is having a good week so far! Almost the weekend!
Here’s my thankful list for this week:
- I am thankful my parents and grandparents came to visit last weekend. It was nice to show them around Blacksburg!
- I am thankful for my comfortable bed even though it makes it very hard to get out of bed in the morning.
- I am thankful for peanut butter.
- I am thankful that I am almost done with classes and that means almost done with school work.
- I am thankful for opportunities.
That’s what’s on my list, what are you thankful for this week?
“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.”
—Dalai Lama XIV
Change is scary...but bring it on!
As a soon to be college grad I can tell you one thing that has been haunting my dreams since August, change. The unknown has always had a profound grip on my nerves. I don’t like it but as I have gotten older, I have tried to accept it to the best of my ability.
It’s interesting how four years ago I planned a little life out for myself about how things would go and where I would be in four years. Standing at the end of my college career four years later, it is very different from where I thought I’d be. Some of my plans didn’t work out, some I am still trying to attain, and others (the glorious few) have far exceeded my expectations of what I thought I could accomplish.
As of now, I am not sure what the future holds, I still have my big goals of what I need to do and where I would like to be. It’s just going to be hard to leave Virginia Tech and the comfort of going to classes, sorority meetings, and being surrounded by mountains and Hokie stone. It’s hard to settle with the fact that this time next year I will not be sitting in the Biology Building stressing over classes. It’s even harder to settle with the fact that I have no idea what I will be doing this time next year.
But even though I have these feelings I have to look forward to the future, I have to look change in the eye and say “okay what’s coming next.” Because we can’t just sit around and lament on the past, we can’t become trapped in wishing we could go back in time and do it all over again. We have to look for the future and see what’s in store for us there, because that is where we all are headed, ready or not.
“When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.”
—Henri Nouwen
Free yourself from what ties you down.
Write a note of things holding you down. Throw it out. Sometimes it takes the physical act of getting rid of something to help up move on.
Breathe. Sometimes you just have to close your eyes and take a deep breath.
Life can jumble itself up in your lap all at once. It’s crazy how so many things can pile up. It’s hard not to get stressed and freak out. It’s hard not to feel overworked and like you haven’t had a break, no calm before the storm.
It’s important when these feelings come around that we have the time we don’t think we have: the time to relax. This is when you need to take a few minutes or even an hour to just relax, just be. Whether it is closing your eyes for a couple of minutes and just focusing on your breathing, watching your favorite show, or going for a run. These things are important, they give our brain a break and allow us to unwind.
This can help us to start fresh and feel at least somewhat revived. If you can’t take more than a minute then just steal away a few quiet seconds to take some deep breaths and regroup.
You can do it, relax, revive, and get to it! :)
